Single Parent FAQs: Separation – Issue 36
09/01/2025
Our Advice and Information team who work on our Lone Parent Helpline, webchat and Ask a Question feature, receive questions from single parents from across Scotland every day.
We get a lot of calls at this time of year from parents separating after the Christmas period. Here are some of the most frequently asked questions that we receive on our advice channels about separating.
Take a look at the answers to the most frequently asked questions on separating from your partner.
My partner and I are separating. We have two children together. I'm unemployed and have no savings, is there any help available until I can find employment?
If you have no income or savings then you may be able to claim Universal Credit, Child Benefit and Scottish Child Payment.
You can get in touch with us and we can explain how to claim these benefits, as well as how much you may be able to claim.
Alternatively, you can use an online benefits calculator.
Since my partner and I separated I have been living in my parents’ house with our 3 children. What are my options when looking for a more long-term housing solution, and would I be able to get any financial help to pay rent seeing as I only work part time and receive Universal Credit?
Places like Rightmove, Zoopla and On the Market can be useful when looking for rentals which are put on the market by Agencies, but this process can be competitive and sometimes slower.
Your quickest options for finding housing are through renting from a social or private landlord.
If you are looking for a flat which is being advertised by a private landlord you could try a website such as Open Rent. Bear in mind that many landlords and agencies require you to view the property in person before you can request to rent the place, especially in Edinburgh and Glasgow city centres.
Another option is to apply to your local council or housing association. Find out how to apply for housing in Scotland.
You can get help to pay for rent through a housing element of Universal Credit. Here is some more information on housing options and the help you could receive with rent.
Since my partner and I separated I have been living in my parents’ house with our 3 children. What are my options when looking for a more long-term housing solution, and would I be able to get any financial help to pay rent seeing as I only work part time and receive Universal Credit?
My husband and I have separated and we are trying to be as amicable as possible. How do we tell the children that we have separated?
It’s great that you are both being amicable which means the children should feel more secure throughout the separation process.
We have a page offering guidance on how to talk to children about separation.
The Books Trust also have a great reading list of books about separation and family life changing. This list includes books for children of all different ages.
When you separate from your partner how often should children see the other parent?
Each family is different and what works for one family may not work for another. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution.
If both parents have parental rights and responsibilities then they should both maintain contact with their children.
We have more information about child contact arrangements. If you can’t work contact arrangements out between yourselves then you could try family mediation with Relationship Scotland.
My ex-partner has agreed to pay Child Maintenance for our 2 children, will this reduce my Universal Credit payments?
No, Child Maintenance payments are disregarded when calculating all benefits, so your Universal Credit will not be reduced.
Only spousal maintenance payments would reduce Universal Credit payments, and this is a separate payment to Child Maintenance.
My partner and I are separating and I'm going to be moving into a new unfurnished property, but I have absolutely no furniture. Are there any grants that I could apply for?
You can apply to The Scottish Welfare Fund for a Community Care Grant for items for your new home.
Most councils will let you know if your application has been successful within 15 working days. More information and how to apply can be found here.
I separated from my ex-partner 2 weeks ago and he is still being verbally abusive to me, would I be able to get my mum to do the handover of the children in my place?
Yes, your safety and wellbeing are vital. Asking a family member to do the handover will relieve you of stress and make the handover better for the children too.
My husband and I have decided to separate. How is Child Maintenance arranged?
The 3 ways to arrange child maintenance are:
· doing a private, family-based arrangement
· using a solicitor
· using the Child Maintenance Service (CMS) Find out more about the Child Maintenance Service.
See our previous issues of Single Parent FAQs on:
- Scottish Benefits
- Child Maintenance
- Having a Baby
- Back to School
- Child contact arrangements
- Scottish benefits
- Separation
- Having a baby
- Housing options
- Child maintenance
- Child contact
- Universal Credit
- Getting back into education as a single parent
- Financial support for single parents
- Bridging payments and help for Christmas
- Social Security Scotland
- What happens when my child gets older
- Separation and divorce
- Support for students
- Domestic abuse
- When does Child Benefit stop?
- Adult Disability Payments
- Child Maintenance
- What happens when my child gets older (2)
- Cost of Living
- Summer holidays
- What happens when my child gets older
- Universal Credit Managed Migration
Remember you can submit your own question via the Ask A Question feature on our website any time and our expert advisers will respond.