[SK04]

Hi. My husband has recently separated from myself and moved out of the family home. This wasn’t a mutual decision and I am completely devastated by his actions. This was only a matter of weeks ago however he is now wanting to discuss the position of our finances. Mortgage, bills etc, all of which are paid by him. I’m looking for any guidance on where I should start and what I need to do to ensure I’m protected and not agreeing to anything that I shouldn’t be. Thanks.

[H]

Hi SK04,

I’m so sorry to hear what you are facing. It sounds like such a shock not only because it happened out of the blue but also since you are now dealing with financial discussions which will add to your upset.

I hope that you are reaching out to friends and family to get the emotional support you need. In terms of protecting yourself financially, I think it’s best to seek advice from a professional. Samaritans would be a good place to start as they can signpost you to various places as I’m sure you’ll have more to sort out over and above money.

Best of luck with everything.

[Deall100]

You need to find a lawyer. If it comes to finances and separation of assets you need solid advice. My friend is in law and said legal costs end up being taken out of a divorce settlement. So don’t be put off if you don’t have the funds. Of course it might not come to that but that’s not a good power dynamic. You will have legal rights to a home and maintenance etc. in the meantime time if you’re not working get advice from citizens advice to know what benefits you’re eligible for as a since parent. And even if you are you still might be eligible for the Scottish child payment tax credits council tax single occupancy etc
You’ll need emotional support so look up free counseling services they’re are alot you just need to dig online you’ll need to off load this combination is important maintain financial and home security and mental health.
Then anything is possible you can do it. I was pregnant homeless and returned from Germany with no job and little money. You’ll doubt yourself a million times but you can do it.

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