Single Parent FAQs: Single parents at Christmas – Issue 46

Christmas can be expensive, but there are ways to keep the costs down:

• Set a realistic spending limit and stick to it. Take advantage of any sales and shop around to get the best prices.
• Set up a “no pressure” gift agreement with family and friends. For example, agree to a price limit for gifts, set up a Secret Santa or suggest just doing presents for the kids only.
• Prioritise meaningful, low-cost activities which mean spending time with the family. This could be things like movie nights, Christmas crafts or baking.
• Look out for low cost or free community events by checking local notice boards or community Facebook groups.
• Christmas dinner doesn’t need to break the bank. Look out for supermarket Christmas Dinner offers or simply cook the family’s favourite meal instead of the traditional turkey and all the trimmings.

There may be help available in your area through several sources:

• Local council assistance and welfare funds
• Foodbanks and community pantries
• Charities offering Christmas grants, toy donations, or hampers
• Benefits advice services to ensure you’re receiving everything you’re eligible for, including help with debt.  Why not get in touch with OPFS today and get a free financial health check from our helpline and debt service?

It’s important to act as soon as possible so that you can reach the right support as soon as possible.

Often, the most special memories of Christmas focus on the shared moments and not the gifts under the tree. Quality time matters most at this time of year and it’s achievable without spending a lot of money. Why not:

• Create simple traditions such as baking treats for Santa or going on a festive walk to see all the lights in your neighbourhood.
• Involve children in decorating the house, like making paper chains or get them involved in making homemade gifts for the family. They’ll love having some input into getting Christmas ready at home!
• Plan cosy moments like a pyjama day, hot chocolate station or even a family games night.

For many, Christmas can bring up difficult emotions. Know that support is available and you don’t have to face it alone.

• Reach out to friends, family or peer support groups and make time to share how you’re feeling. OPFS have a single parent forum which you can join and speak to other parents: insert link to forum here.
• Take time for self-care where you can, whether that’s a walk, journaling your feelings, having a cup of tea or watching your favourite film.
• At OPFS, we have a dedicated Helpline that you can call to chat things through. There are lots of organisations and Helplines available if you need someone to talk to. Find out more here.

It’s important to take time and acknowledge their feelings, the impact that this is having on your child. Provide reassurance where you can:

• Encourage them to express their emotions. It’s always good to talk things through.
• Offer ways to stay connected to the other parent (like phone calls, writing a card or sending photos) where it’s safe and appropriate to do so.
• Remind them that it’s okay to enjoy time with each parent.
• Focus on creating positive moments together.

There is a lot of pressure around Christmas for parents, whether that be financial or emotional. Remember:

• Your child values your presence, not perfection. In future, they may not remember what gifts they got, but they will remember the time spent with them.
• Social media isn’t reality. What you see online is often a highlight reel, not the full picture. Many people only share their best moments, so try not to compare your own family’s Christmas to what you see online. Focus on what makes your celebration meaningful for you and your child.
• Traditions can be simple and still meaningful. Even small moments, like decorating, baking treats or reading a festive story together, can create lasting and cherished memories for your child.

It’s completely okay to do Christmas your own way. There is no set way to “do” Christmas. However you choose to celebrate, what matters most is creating moments that are meaningful and enjoyable for you and your child.

One Parent Families Scotland can support you during the Christmas period with a number of practical and emotional supports.  Get in touch with us today by calling 0808 801 0323, contacting us via webchat at www.opfs.org.uk or by sending us an email at advice@opfs.org.uk.

Our helpline will be available until 2pm on Christmas Eve and will reopen on 29th and 30th December from 10am to 2pm, ready to offer support and guidance when you need it.