Dopamine_Hopes
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Hi Piratehead, sorry this is just me getting back to you now. I’ve had an awful lot going on so my apologies. Hope you & the kids are doing great & are happy and healthy. I’ve taken note of your email address and will send you one soon. Take care my love xx
Hi Kazom, I don’t currently work at the minute however I was in the same job for 8 years. Now if you’re widowed which I’m so sorry to hear 😔 you should however depending on your earnings be entitled to help towards childcare. Depending on where you stay too some place put on playschemes which are relatively cheap. You should definitely be entitled to some help maybe contact citizens advice for more information and then get them to advocate with hmrc & benefit agencies. Take care D xx
I think it could possibly turn around honestly. My boy has sensory issues bad with his ears. He hated music, even when played low. Now he’s trying to sing along asks for it to be turned up, dancing, even says certain one’s are his favourite. There’s a lot of WON’T EVER when it comes to social & developmental issues that not just for me but friends & family with kids who have the same issues at some point their kids changed those WON’T EVER things into DID THEM. All you want is for them to be happy, healthy & safe everything else is just a bonus 💙
@piratehead Wow, you’re person after my own ❤ I love everything spiritual, tarot, anything other worlds & psychic gifts. There’s a reason behind it 😉 I love music, gigs & festivals are my love. When my girls were growing up we too had our gig calender. My girls are 19 & nearly 21 and they’ve carried it on. My wee boy is 3 nearly 4 who is being assessed for autism he has social & developmental issues. You sound like someone who would be a lot of fun & if you would like to meet up I’d be happy too
Hi H, I just wanted to give you my take on your situation if its okay? So I have a daughter who’s nearly 21. Only maybe coming on 3 years ago she sat down and told me she was bisexual. I asked her how long she’d known & she said since about 11 for sure. Thru her teenage years she had about 2 boyfriends. I had no incline she wasn’t heterosexual. I asked why she hadn’t told me way before she did. This broke my heart 😭 she said I thought you would throw me out & disown me. My child believed that & I have no understanding or idea of why. I’ve lots of gay friends, I have always supported the lbgtq+ community & for people to be able to love who they love without it being a problem for anyone else. I told her that there is nothing she could ever do that would make me unlove, disown or change my opinion of the person she is. Except 1 thing that YOU NEVER do to kids. I won’t say the word. I was broken hearted that my child had to live her teenage years being someone she wasn’t & couldn’t live who she was because of fear of what others would say and think. We had a chat the other day & she’s realised she’s not bisexual she’s pan sexual & that’s where you fall in love with a person’s being, their personality who they are regardless of their gender. I think that is absolutely lovely maybe if that’s how we all were love would maybe be easier. Yes you’re a woman you have kids being with men was who you where then it doesn’t mean you need to continue with that if it doesn’t make you happy. Maybe you’ve had bad experiences with men that now you just can’t see yourself with another man now. If you find that you now want to see if you’re more suited to a relationship with a woman or you want to go down my daughters route then DO IT. Its your life & only your life. Obviously once you decide personally for me I’d tell my kids before anyone I’d explain the best I could & reassure them that they’ll always come first. Don’t leave them to hear from anyone else. If your kids see no issue & just want you to be happy that’s the only people’s opinion & feelings you should bother yourself with my love. I hope you stop worrying about others & finally put yourself 1st. That’s the least you deserve & I’ll be rooting for you my love xxx
Hi to all of my single super parents above 🤗 My son is 3 & is being assessed for autism its a long process but they’ve made it clear I just need the official diagnosis from the paediatrician. I also think he may have ADD OR ADHD. They’ve said they won’t entertain that until he’s 5/6. I also believe I have undiagnosed adult ADHD. It can be hard at times but you end up finding your own ways to deal with the issues yoir child can go thru & become distressed. I use distraction constantly if he’s confused, upset, distressed or lashing out. I find it more difficult when it comes to other people NOT listening to em when I tell them what to do in those situations & they don’t listen they end up raising voices, giving rows which my son only responds to with a complete meltdown of tears. The thing that riles me the most tho is when people ask about your child & you mention autism & they say oh I’m so sorry 😳 excuse me. I’m not sorry so why should you be? I find it ignorant arrogant & a total uneducated thing to say to someone. I wouldn’t change my son even if autism had a cure its part of who he is and my son is absolutely amazing.
Hi everyone. Just joined the forum. Just thought I’d introduce myself. I’m D 👋 it’s an acronym of my real name but my friends call me D.
1. How old are your children, and name one thing they’ve done recently that made you laugh?
I have 3 kids, my oldest will be 21 next month, my middle is 19 they’re all grown up & moved out 😭 they share a wee flat round the corner but it’s still so hard to let them go. My youngest is coming up 4 in August. He is being assessed for autism & possibly add or adhd. He makes me laugh every day but earlier he had an argument with my middle daughter that I wasn’t her mum I was only his 🤦♀️ she was getting totally embroiled into an argument with a 3 year old than I was her mum that they all have the same mum but he just kept shutting her down 🤣 he’s so determined & will not give up with what he thinks even if he’s wrong 🤣2. What led you to join the OPFS forum?
I’ve joined the forum after coming out a 4+year relationship. It wasn’t a nice relationship I won’t mention any details here. Due to this I’ve ended up totally isolated 56 miles from home, family & friends. So I don’t get out much or have people around. Thought ot would be nice to meet other supermum’s I could chat to, help them if needed & maybe learn things in the process.3. It can be difficult juggling everything as a single parent, mention one thing you find difficult about being a single parent?
The only thing I find difficult about being a single parent right now is when my ex left he didn’t just leave me he’s totally abandoned our 3 year old autistic son. Its not because I need him to raise my son I don’t. Its the anger I’m left with how he could treat my child like this. In 10 months he hasn’t made any form of contact. He’s ignored every fo of contact from me & even lawyers. He refuses to tell me if he’s ever going to be in my sons life or not. It’s infuriating.4. Mention one thing that you like about being a single parent?
Well I’ve been a single parent for 21 years so I don’t know any different. My girls dad’s weren’t any better. What I enjoy most is the feeling of knowing that I don’t need anyone & I have no1 to thank for anything.5. Tell us about a hobby or something you like to do for fun or relax? It could just be something small that you are able to fit in after your children are in bed.
I wouldn’t say it’s a hobby it’s a way of life for me. I listen to music everyday there’s not a day I can remember when I didn’t that’s my happy place when I have a pair of headphones on.
